Growing Not Young Together
Posted on 05. Dec, 2009 by Nick the Geek in All, Husband
It seems unfair that I only have one post currently marked as “My Experience As a Husband” considering that this is one of the biggest parts of my life. I love my wife dearly. We have been married for 10 years now and going strong. This Monday my wife will be celebrating her 30th anniversary of birth. Of course this is 29 the sequel as my wife insists she is not turning 30.
I guess it is time for an introduction. My bride is Susan. She is not a geek, but she does love Science Fiction and Fantasy. We met when she was 15 and dated for 4 years before getting married. She was born and raised for a while in California. I like to joke about it but she was born on a farm. Technically she was born in a house on a chicken ranch that her grandparents managed in Mira Loma, CA. She still lived in CA when I was there as a young boy but moved to Arizona at 11 and then to Oregon at 14. June 18th 1999 when she was 15 her family arrived in Oklahoma. The following day we met at Youth Camp. We are the exception that proves the rule.
We have had hard times including losing 3 children through miscarriage and ectopic pregnancy. Statistically we should have been driven to divorce but through it we have been driven closer together instead of apart. I wish I could figure out what makes our marriage work and give that to others, but the truth is we work because God holds us so long as we refuse to let go.
As I go forward I plan on writing more about my lovely bride and our marriage.
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Kristi Fornshell
Dec 5th, 2009
Beautiful. Has your wife read this? "one of the biggest parts of my life" is the best line in the whole story.
As to the loss of 3 children, I am so sorry. The fact that these are not very recent losses makes little difference. You are correct in saying you have beaten the odds on divorce.
My congratulations to Susan on the second anniversary of her 29th Birthday.
I presume you have something special planned. lol
Enjoy Her day Kristi
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Nick the Geek
Dec 5th, 2009
Thanks, and yes we have a nice day planned.
Candy
Dec 5th, 2009
"…we work because God holds us so long as we refuse to let go."
Exactly!! God never told us it would be easy, but that faithfulness endures. So glad to see young 'uns like yourselves endure through the rough spots, hanging on to the most important Love of all.
Happy Birthday, Susan! I pray you'll find that the first anniversary of 29 can be much the same as the 30th one.
Nick the Geek
Dec 5th, 2009
I'll let her know you said happy birthday. I keep trying to get her to blog too, but right now she is into Facebook. Blogging doesn't have farmville.
Candy
Dec 5th, 2009
I think farmville might have to be one of those things I don't investigate. Those vegetables just might hold me hostage more than they do in my non-virtual life.
IndianaRedneck
Dec 7th, 2009
Farmville is from the devil. Seriously. My wife comes home and plays it until her fingers go numb. And then she takes off her shoes and uses her toes. It's not pretty.
Command & Conquer is a much better way to spend your time.
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Nick the Geek
Dec 7th, 2009
I think Red Alert2 was directly responsible for more than one less than perfect test score.
Steph @RedClay
Dec 6th, 2009
Hi Susan! Thanks for sharing Nick and his geekitude with all of us imaginary friends. I should also probably thank you for putting up with him so that we can enjoy his crazy schemes.
Welcome to blogland. It may not have Farmville, but it's got a nice aroma.
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Nick the Geek
Dec 6th, 2009
I'll let her know that some blogs have a more pungent aroma than others. Specifically blogs that deal with lots of poo.
Jamie
Dec 6th, 2009
Happy 29th (again) birthday to Susan!
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Nick the Geek
Dec 7th, 2009
I'll make sure she sees this and I'm sure she says thank you.
Nicodemus at Nite
Dec 7th, 2009
I know what you mean. Psychology and Sociology will try to tell us that our behavior is strictly defined by the environment we grew up and live in. Yet, I think of Joseph. With all the crap that happened to him, he never once complained. Nor did he have a bad attitude or ever curse God.
We once went to a "Weekend to Remember" conference headed by Family Life and one of the images I remember is when a married couple got up on the stage holding a rope, and the speaker said, "Every time I cut the rope, that represents a conflict in the marriage." So he would cut here and there, but after each cut, tie it back together where ever he cut it. By the end the husband and wife were standing next to each other because the tied knots brought them closer together.
Anyways, good post and I'll see you on over at SCL.
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Nick the Geek
Dec 7th, 2009
That is a really cool analogy. I'll have to remember it. We haven't been on a marriage weekend in a while, but I'm planning one for next year. I want to do a Marriage Encounter weekend but I'll look into the Weekend to Remember stuff.
Terrilyn Stathas
Jan 10th, 2010
Hi there! I discovered your site on aol. I’m just in the process of starting a blog and wondered how you found the WordPress to install.Anyway, great blog and ill def be visiting again! cheers