Yesterday I mostly wrote about a group that I facilitated in an ethics workshop. I was told by someone that they were frightened at how callous the girls were. I will say that this group was a bit harsh but there were a couple that didn’t go with the group decision. They just didn’t stand up for their opinion very strongly. More importantly there were some really cool opinions from other groups.
One story in particular was a young lady that I noticed right away. She dressed so that people would see here. Not in the slutty way but in the 8 inch tall Mohawk and all the cloths you would expect to go with that hair style. Most of the students were dressed up a bit because they were told to dress nice. I had hoped she would be at my table but I wasn’t so fortunate. I know we aren’t supposed to judge books by their covers, but I tend to read people. In this case I read correctly and she would have made a great addition to the group. It seems her personality would have pushed the group to think about their decisions more carefully.
On the question about a friend that was on steroids she got up to speak for her group as a whole. After introducing herself as “Anarchy” (later I learned that her name is Anna so the rchy is tagged on … I guess she spells it Annarchy?), she laid down more strongly than anyone else that it isn’t cool to let a friend do something destructive like that. At one point she said “I’d rather lose our friendship than to lose a friend.” That is powerful and the kind of person I want to see in my youth group. Maybe that is why they call us the freak show, but they don’t know what is inside.
Anyways, I also wanted to say it was cool being there and having so many people there that recognized me. Only two of my students were there but a couple dozen teens walked up and talked to me at some point. There were people I’ve met through various things I’ve been involved with. Very cool to see I’m getting to know so many of the students and they are getting to know me.
Back to my original point. Yes, we have a lot of self centered students, but we also have some really amazing ones even if they don’t look like we expect.