I think that’s how it goes? Tonight we talked about the differences between guys and gals. Then we did a big dance number. Wait, no, that was the weird dream I had. We did talk about the differences though. I showed a great clip from the Skit Guys that illustrated that God made us and wants to remake us into what He intended. Then I talked a bit about how we were all created in His image. Actually it was kind cool because I slipped out the side door while the lights were out and waited by the back door which is right by the platform. I began reading the scripture just before I stepped through the door right as I heard the clip end so I knew it would be like totally dark and the light would be coming in from behind me. Very dramatic … especially for me. Check out the video:
After this and my short introduction I sent the guys down to the basement with my male leaders and had them start going through the questions and I talked to the girls. I talked about how they have had various images put on them and how that has made so many girls do things that are destroying them. This isn’t really new, back in the day women were practically second class citizens. Actually there was a point where they really were. Things changed but because we are so broken we only made it worse. God showed respect to women through Jesus who always treated them like real people, which was huge compared to the culture He was walking in. I related to my girls that they could never hear enough that they deserve respect, and that God made them to be perfect without destroying themselves. I thought about showing this video, but I figured one was enough.
Then I talked to the guys about the differences between us and girls and how it can drive us crazy, and even make us angry, but I brought it back around to this same issue of respect. I used a lot of illustrations from my life and talked about how different the kids were even before they were born. We are all so very different but we are patterned after God according to Genesis. Because of this we must respect each other, especially that guys need to show respect to girls. They way they treat their mothers and sisters and girlfriends is exactly how they will treat a future spouse.
At the end of the night I brought the groups back together and we went through questions that the guys and girls had come up with to ask each other. Most of the questions were really good. A few were kind of obvious, but some of the guys were asking, “what kind of guy would you like to marry?” and “what impresses you?” The girl’s answers to these were really great and I hope the guys were listening. The girls asked some interesting questions too. A lot revolved around things that had hurt them in the past like “why do guys only go for the pretty girls?” and “why do guys cheat instead of just breaking up with a girl?” I think the discussion went really well though and I hope people learned something from it all.
Did you ever get this kind of chance as a teen? I wonder what questions you would ask given the opportunity?