Comments on: Talking bout S.E.X.

By: Nick the Geek

Nick the Geek — Thu, 25 Feb 2010 21:23:27 +0000

I think that is a great program. I’d like to do something like that in the future.

By: Nick the Geek

Nick the Geek — Thu, 25 Feb 2010 21:22:52 +0000

Youth welcome and thank you.

By: Nick the Geek

Nick the Geek — Thu, 25 Feb 2010 21:22:34 +0000

I think that is the big problem. Tel a teen “sex is bad” and then they start fooling around and it doesn’t “feel bad” and they get really confused.

By: Nick the Geek

Nick the Geek — Thu, 25 Feb 2010 21:21:49 +0000

I think that is so important. I know a young man that got married on the DL right out of HS. I’m pretty certain that is a product of “save it for marriage” with no other counsel.

By: Nick the Geek

Nick the Geek — Thu, 25 Feb 2010 21:20:10 +0000

I think we got even less on the subject than that. It really bothers me how little the church talks about something so important.

By: rustypants

rustypants — Fri, 19 Feb 2010 04:28:56 +0000

the last 3-4 years i was YP, i took my group through 2-3 weeks of The Sex Talk

- the first week was always the whole group together – we’d talk about those myths you brought up, an what God’s perspective on sex is (and it AIN’T “sex is bad”).
- the second week, i’d bring a panel of folks in (married couples & singles) and we’d do a frank discussion about sex and an open Q&A of the panelists (always a varied group – some had had sex before marriage, others didn’t, singles who had already had or hadn’t had sex, and one year we had a 55 year old dude who was still a virgin) or a stack of magazines (cosmo, etc.) and music and address the sex / image issue from that perspective.
- the final week was splitting up guys and girls and having what could have been wildly uncomfortable (but never was) open Q&A about anything and everything sex / bodies / sexuality. i’d give out 3×5 cards and pens and they could ask ANYTHING. i obviously reserved the right to not answer questions i thought were asked just for the shock value, but we didn’t get many of those.

we were blessed with a large youth group of astoundingly varied backgrounds and experiences. the yearly sex series was always a success, with many students becoming comfortable enough to actually talk about what has frequently been a taboo topic in the church.

glad to hear you’re addressing this head-on.

By: Matt @ The Church of No People

Matt @ The Church of No People — Fri, 19 Feb 2010 03:29:35 +0000

Wow Nick, this is very timely for what I’ve been thinking about. Thanks for sharing your teaching methods!

By: Marni

Marni — Thu, 18 Feb 2010 19:06:13 +0000

I’ve spent a number of years being concerned how church says “sex is bad”. But then you get married and they say “sex is good”. Mixed message much? I’m glad you explained to your kids that God’s “rules” on sex don’t have to do with Him being a jerk, He just wants it to be as great as He intended it to be, and the confines of a loving marriage is His intention.

By: Nic at Nite

Nic at Nite — Thu, 18 Feb 2010 18:08:55 +0000

I always remember what my old youth pastor told me. “Marriage is not about sex.” That’s stuck with me ever since and helped me when dating my g/f who later became my wife. Like sex was not the focus you know?

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By: Sarah Salter

Sarah Salter — Thu, 18 Feb 2010 17:05:52 +0000

Nick, I think it’s GREAT that you’re so serious about educating your teens on sex. When I was a youth, the extent of what we learned about sex in youth group (and I had a good youth pastor) was “don’t do it.” I heard the youth around me constantly asking questions like “how far is too far” and “is masturbation sin” and “if I’ve done it am I doomed to hell” but never getting answers and never getting a chance to dialogue about it at all.

I’m pretty thankful that my job with youth doesn’t include having to have The Talk. I do the administration end of the job most of the time and occasionally get to do altar counseling. If it was my job, I don’t know what I’d do, but it seems to me like you’ve got a pretty good handle on it. You’re starting with the right motives and that’s really taking a big step in the right direction.